Coping With Weight Can Be Harder Than Losing It
Losing weight is hard enough, but coping with weight loss can be even harder. Losing weight doesn’t just make you look and feel better, it changes your life…literally. Your friends may become jealous of your success and shy away from you. You may catch flack from a spouse or significant other who liked you better “with some meat on your bones.” You may be discontented with the body you ended up with, especially if it looks nothing like that supermodel’s picture you kept on the refrigerator as motivation. The truth is, weight loss sometimes hurts. The sooner you realize this, the less like you’ll fold when or if it happens.
Focus on Lifelong Health Benefits Rather the Superficial
Stay focused on the health benefits of losing weight, rather than the superficial ones. The realization that you have too much flabby skin in all the wrong places to ever wear a bikini or mini-skirt again may hurt–a lot, especially if it was your main motivation. Disappointment over never being able to wear short shorts or low-cut jeans pales in comparison to the feeling of increased energy and stamina. Being able to wear a figure-flattering dress is a great feeling, but it is no substitute for the peace of mind you get from knowing you’re at a lower risk for stroke, heart disease, and diabetes.
This Isn’t About Them, It’s About You
Remember that you’re losing weight for you, not your friends and family. When they slyly attempt to sabotage your efforts, insisting you’re getting too skinny or you’ve lost enough weight, thank them for their concern and assure them that you’ve got your weight loss plan well under control. Politely decline when they entice you with dessert or second helpings. Or take one bite, put the down the fork and say that you’re really not that hungry. Whatever you do, don’t get defensive or go on the offensive. Stay in control of how you react to the situation. Don’t let the situation control you.
When Weight Loss Hurts
Anticipate your transformation from fat to fabulous to elicit varied reactions from those around you. Coping with weight loss becomes a real test when it becomes obvious that not everyone admires your weight loss. Some of your acquaintances will admire and compliment you. Others will be jealous and make snide comments to make you feel bad. It stings when family and friends become casualties of your weight-loss success. Take comfort with those friends who stick by you and find new ones to replace those who don’t. Have a heart-to-heart with your spouse or significant other. Sometimes a partner may become unsupportive and even attempt to derail your efforts out of insecurity or fear of losing you once you lose weight. Encourage your partner to talk about his feelings and find a way each day to give him reassurance that your relationship is solid.
Be Patient and Enjoy the Journey to a New You
Sometimes we focus so hard on reaching the goal that we don’t appreciate the small successes along the way. So you lost only 20 lbs in six months instead of the 50 lbs you were hoping for. It doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. As long as those pounds are coming off instead of piling on, you’re doing everything right. Twenty pounds is significant. Lift a 20-lb bag of potatoes and see for yourself. That’s 20 lbs less weight on your joints and internal organs. That’s more of a reason to stay on the weight loss course than getting into a smaller pair of jeans. Give it time and the rest of the pounds will be dropping off before you know it.